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Just wondering if you guys allow other guys to play with your hair? I know a little weird, but had to ask. :)
Yeah, depends on the guy, circumstances, etc. You?
I think my head's a little too sensitive for me to do that... it'd just feel wrong. Gets me going when a
girl does it.
I don't mind getting a massage from a guy (professionally or otherwise) but personally,
the head's just out of bounds :)
wolfeyes
Nobody touches my hair except me. Just wouldn't do anything for me.
I sometimes hold the end of my tail when in deep thought.
Play with my hair... No... for me thats a pretty intimit thing so I wouldn't have a guy "play" with my hair. But I've had a friend ask to touch it, (aparently he had some weird expectation that longhair felt skanky so I gave him the opportunity to dispell that idea.)
I've also had a guy at the salon where I used to get my hair cut, wash my hair and cut it, I've got no problem with that.
So Why did you ask?
I very rarely have males wanting to touch my hair, and if they did, I'd let them touch, but not "play with" my hair. Women on the other hand. . . .;)
Seeings how I am not a homosexual, No I would never ever let a guy touch my hair, that would be just gay man.
You have to define "play". Like, I'd let a guy stroke my hair for sure (being gay and all), and the same for girls as the activity is harmless enough. But if by "play" you mean things like... "Tie it up in knots" or "dip it in ketchup" or "color it with crayons" or "set it on fire" or anything stupid like that then it's unlikely I'll let anyone 'play' with it....
But I honestly don't think it's a 'gay' thing to let other guys play with your hair, and certainly not touching. How many gay men do you think have long hair? Virtually zero. I know of none.
Love,
Kiat T.
PS: As two people already asked you "why do you ask?" I'm not going to ask again. But I really encourage you respond ;)
How many gay men do you think have long hair? Virtually zero. I know of none.
Time for a major re-think on that one. I used to think long haired gay men were rare but that is just not true. Of the 91 people in the directory of users there are 9 that I am certain are gay and 2 more that are likely gay. Absalom
Ok. Then maybe 11 in all of North America, and they all happen to be on this board. I'm telling you, we need more long haired gay guys. I mean, long haired men are hard to find to begin with, and long haired GAY men? There're like 2 other guys in my college (or colleges, it's the Claremont Colleges) who have long hair and they certainly aren't gay. The gay ones that I know look like they all go to the same buzzcut-only salon... So, in my opinion, if LA doesn't have long haired gay men (minus me), then you won't find them anywhere else.
Love,
Kiat T.
As the rest of the guys have said, it depends on their/your individual preference. I happen to like any individual to give me a massage, as long as it feels good to me. The same goes for massaging my scalp and/or running their fingers through my hair. What I find amazing is that I have older female clients of mine that make it a point to come into my office at the bank to ask if they could run their fingers through my hair. These are women in their 70's and 80's. I'm a gay male in my early 40's. When my older female clients do the hair thing with me, it's not sexual, it's sensual. And it's in a private office where no one else can see. My point is that if you enjoy it, fine. Regardless of your sexuality, it's your inner sensual drive that is important in this case and you should not be concerned about what others think about you. - John
A guy at work sometimes plays with my hair, and he likes it when I play with his (how gay does that sound!).... but he's not gay, at least i dont think so... :-/ I dont think he's really been round many guys with longer than avg hair so it may just be that. I dont have any problems with it in general tho, one of the most relaxing things for me, guys, girls doesnt make a difference.
I know what you mean - it really does depend who it is I suppose. I have a really close male
friend, and we have no problems with hugging in public, or if he's upset I'll stroke his head
and vice versa...
Nothing sexual about it - it's more about support and closeness.
If one of us has an aching back (as we're both quite active) the other is usually happy to give it a rub.
And I gave up caring a long time ago whether people thought it came across gay. Cos we're not, and we're friends, and we're happy with that.
Actually... many girls have commented on how nice it is to see guys that are comfortable being like that, which is cool.
wolfeyes
I am ashamed to admit that even I don't have guy friends like that. Ok, maybe one, but only when nobody's around. My closest friends are all guys and they're all quite reluctant to ever lay a finger on another guy and not to mention touch my hair. Not that I'm dying for them to, mind you. LOL.
And yeah, it's nice to see guys who are comfortable 'being like that'.
Love,
Kiat T.
I'm glad you have someone like that too - even if it is in private. Maybe other
male friends are worried about coming across gay (that is if they're
straight).
If not, they're probably just being guys. I don't know many guys
who are comfortable with male closeness.
I think the only reason my friend and I are this way is because we've been best friends for over 10 years. We grew up together and went through the toughness of teenagehood together, and we're very similar. We know each other back to front and having nothing... and I mean nothing we hide from each other.
We even went through the most difficult thing I've ever done - telling each other the worst thing we've ever done. Neither of us thought the other would understand - close as we are - but if anything it's made us closer in the support we needed to give each other.
Anyway, I've droned on long enough. Suffice to say everyone deserves a friend like that, especially if they are like you, and comfortable with closeness.
wolfeyes
I totally agree wolfeyes. It's how comfortable a person is with his/her emotions phsyically, whether in public or not. My best friend is straight and I'm gay, and we could care less what anyone else thinks about how we show our bond/love for each other physically or verbally...and that goes for whether we're in public view or otherwise. It really comes down to how secure you are with you as as human being.
John
I especially have respect for your friend - I know how hard it is to have a
friend who is gay, and to remain close, no matter what people think.
I have a
gay/bi friend, and a friend who went a phase of thinking he was... my love for
my friends is not based on their sexuality, but on the people they are, and the
people I have seen them grow into, and nothing so simple can break that, I'm
glad to say :)
wolfeyes
Damn I'm touched. We need more people like you on the planet.
Love,
Kiat T.
Great comment and open minded like alot of the swedish people I know.
John.B
Most girls I come across, and one recently when I visited her play with my hair. They love the fact it's longer than theirs and can do more stuff with it.
But uh, guys? Honestly, I wouldn't let a guy play with my hair. That's a little gay in my opinion. Plus, you never know if they have the diabolic intent of pulling out scissors when you're not looking!
Although once, my friend Patrick had really nice midback length hair and I was just growing out. We would pull each other's ponytails from time to time.
Well nothing wrong with letting male or female touch you hair. I've had a few people comment and I've let them touch it and it does not bother me. If you got it flaunt it, and some times it's very sensual. After all nothing like a good head massage.
I've had close male friends touch mine, and do not bother me at all. i don't think it even has anything to do with a persons "orientation" in life.
Cheers,
John.B
I've never come across a guy who said they wanted to touch my hair, and I would probably think they were gay. I could be wrong, but it doesn't seem like something a straight guy would want to do?
I suppose I might let a guy touch my hair even if I knew he was gay, if it was someone I knew and trusted. I think this is hypothetical, because I doubt if it's likely.
OTOH, from time to time, women and girls want to touch my hair. Just the other day someone asked if she could untangle my hair, and said she had a hair fetish. This apparently didn't bother my wife, who was standing right there, and I really enjoyed it.
The type of people who worry me most when they touch my hair are hair stylists, male or female, gay or straight.
I sometimes hang out in the search room at the US Patent and Trademark Office, in fact I used to every day when I was employed as a full time researcher. Well, there was this girl there called Lisa, who has since married and moved to Rhode Island. A long haired, unemployed, Chinese guy used to come in every day, stand behind her and play with her hair. I don't know how it started, but the funny part was when she admitted she didn't know who the hell he was!!!
I can't imagine saying yes to that. If anyone of either sex asked that, I'd regard it as having implications. Nobody has asked though, so if there was somebody I knew and there was an understanding then mabye... maybe... but it's just so off-the-wall I don't see it happening.
One time in college a girl asked to touch my beard. That rocked! She said she didn't expect it to feel so soft. I think most girls are afraid of beards because they have experienced stubble and imagine that it will be worse. Of course it's just the opposite. I don't know, but I think I may have "converted" her to guys with beards that day. :)
I guess my question wasn't meant to be a "sexual" thing. I was
just curious about what other males
thought about other males
touching or playing with another males hair.
Some of you have answered
my questin very well and I appreciate that.
I've never had that situation...a guy asking to touch it.
Personally I don't want anyone to come within my space...I have a very severe case of claustrophobia.
