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Greetings all. Quick question for anyone who can help me out here. My husband has beautiful, long hair. He claims he doesn't want to cut it, but he won't take care of it either. I've tried giving him hints, trimming the ends off and taking care of it myself, but I honestly don't have the time. (My hair is hip length as it is, it takes me forever to work on my hair.) Anything I can do to maybe scare him into taking care of it?
Thanks for any help...
Men can be a little stubborn sometimes, so maybe he just doesn't want to hear it, or very independent. Or he could be going for that scruffy look that uncared for hair brings, some men enjoy looking like a hick, I for the longest time had mediumish hair that was hardly combed and hardly washed, I didn't start taking care of my hair until after high school.
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That description fits me quite a lot :-)
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I think he likes the scruffy look. He's been told by many people that he looks a bit like Kurt Cobain, so I think he's been heading towards that style. Unshaven, dirty, messy hair, ripped jeans and flannel. The style doesn't bother me as much as the hair.
And yes - he is a major hick. So much so that we've nicknamed him Cletus.
I've met plenty of hicks who are nice people. Unfortunately, the unkempt look is a thing they sometimes share with derelicts and street people. :-(
Just an idea. Does he enjoy playing with your hair? If so, do you enjoy the experience?
If so, you could have a lot of good fun helping to look after each others' hair.
Agree before you start what your aims are - ie dn't braid each other's hair if you don't want it braded etc!
He does enjoy playing with my hair, but he thinks it takes too much to take care of it. I do play with his hair a lot, braiding, washing and brushing it. That's about the only time it gets taken care of.
We're about to go on vacation, so maybe I can work on his hairy habits when there's no stress and so on. Thank you for your help, and wish me luck.
Good luck! Perhaps you could extend your vacation....
Maybe just sit down and talk with him? Sometimes, or maybe usually, "hints" are taken wrong--maybe he thinks you don't love him anymore or wanting out of the relationship.
If he likes his hair to be messy, maybe with enough communication the two of you can make an agreement where he can always take better care of his hair, and then keep it neat and clean most times and at other times let it get messy. I often let my pony tail start to fall apart because I like my hair to look messy, but when I'm around others or go out I keep it looking more taken care of.
