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Help!
My mother forces me to cut my hair!
I don't know what to do! I love my hair and it took so long to grow out that long. And now she forces me to cut it.
And as long as she lives I mustn't have long hair. That's hell!
What can I do?
If I don't cut it, she will.
Oh, I hate this life
My hair is very important for me and a life without it will not be worth living!
RUN AWAY RUN FAR WAY!
As if I hadn't tried that :-)
But I live in my parent's house, so I just can't hide.
Or you could try talking with your mother and see what the beef is actually about. I was harassed to no end by my mother, and to a lesser extent, my father, in the first few months of the awkard stages.
Finally, I decided that I had enough! I gathered up my courage and asked her to stop; rather, I told her that I wasn't constantly nagging her over her hair choices, and she should have the same respect for mine. She paused, nodded, and agreed with me; doubt she even noticed it was bothering me until I spoke up. She's kept quiet about it since, but I believe she's finally coming around to liking it.
The moral of the story is this. We all say or do things not realizing that we're bothering, annoying, or hurting others. Yet more times than not, a simple, polite discussion on the matter at hand can fix it.
If she's still not willing to deal, consider wearing it in a bun around the house. It will help hide the length and she may end up forgetting about it until the next annoying neighbor pops up. ;-)
Best wishes,
AC
I used to have the same problem when I was younger, but both my parents used to get onn me. When it got longer than they wanted they would give me the you can't you live under my roof speach. I don't see the big deal what the hell. I am 32 now and thy just gave up hassling me not to long ago, and they have learned to accept it. I think it is a pretty mild thing compared to the way kids are getting body piercings and tattoo's. It sounds like your mother was o.k. with it, the root of the problem is with your neighbor have a talk with them and tell them to get a life or something to that effect.
Good Luck
Er Dude... How exactly is she gonna force you to cut your hair?
Tie You up and shave you?
Think about it... What's she really gonna do? Attack you whilst you sleep?
If so then really man you need to be calling Social Services or if your 18... MOVE OUT!
Either way... tell her straight if she forcibly cuts your hair without your permission then you'll press charges for assault... YES you can do that! You can also Sue her on a no-win-no-fee basis (popular in the UK) for doing it.
Also if Anyone threatened to forcibly cut my hair I'd make it quite clear the next place any siscors would be going after they cut my locks... In the offenders eye!
DONT BE BULLIED INTO DOING ANYTHING YOU DONT WANT TO DO.
Sorted
Right On!!!
Hi Sorted,
I usually think you are right on with your advise, but not this time. Parets do have the right to make decisions for their children, and that does include how they dress, how long they keep their hair, etc. I don't think anyone would consider it child abuse for a parent to insist their child have their hair cut.
Greg
A forced Haircut (ie holding someone down and cutting their hair ) is assault... plain and simple, it doesn't matter if its mum or dad doing it or a complete stranger.
If the parent takes the child to a hairdresses and the child is told to get in the seat and let the stylist do their worst then this is different because the child has complied. But no parent has a right to physically enforce their will on a child using violence. That was the nature of my point, and as far as I'm concerned if someone is restrained whilst their hair is forcibly cut then that is a violent act.
Sorted
Sorted is right, at least in the UK. Any right the parents may have to tell the child what to do can't be enforced by assault and battery. In the US that may not be true, but it will depend on what state you are in. Even if it is not viewed as battery it may still be considered as abuse by the social services.
Parents can use coercive measures as punishment for not getting a haircut, and in some places that may sadly still include legalised assault and battery. However, even in those sad places that are still that far behind the times there are limits set on how they can beat their children, and they don't include any right to use any sort of cutting implement. Trust me, that's a fact.
In short, parents cannot actually cut your hair against your will. Not legally, anyway.
