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We've seen a bit more quibbling and back-biting on here than we're comfortable with, lately. Let's chill, folks. The primary function for this forum is to be a support forum for longhaired men. It best performs that function when we are civil with one another.
In particular, we've seen bouts where two people get into a spat that crawls down the page and way to the right, growing more argumentative with each click of the send button. Each person, determined to be the one to get in the last blow, drags the thread on and on. Some of these bouts have actually maxed out against the thread depth limit of 15 posts deep. Any time a discussion has gone half that deep, if it is between two people and the tone has become "disagreeing with each other", the bout has gone on more than long enough, in the eyes of all those on the sidelines.
If only one person were engaged in this, we'd correspond privately, but enough have fallen into this trap of bouting with others, that we've felt a general comment needs to be said.
Some general recommendations....
1. Say what you want in one or two posts. Lawyers in court only get two cracks to make their arguments. That should be enough here. When their last time to speak has come, anything else they want to say must just be swallowed. We can do the same. Let go of your pride for the sake of the community, and let the bout drop. Be proud of your hair progress; be proud of all you've done to help others. We are all going to judge your reputation here by that anyway, not by how rough you can be in coming out on top in an argument.
2. We tolerate off topic posts IN MODERATION from regulars, for the purpose of getting to know one another. That helps in community-building, an important activity here because it helps us get the real task at hand here done. But don't get off too deep on such subjects. If you are a Jehovah's witness, a vegetarian, a pacifist, or a Republican, cool. We enjoy hearing that. We don't, however, want to see long arguments about the philosophies behind such off-topic interests. We certainly don't want to see you judge others according to their tenets. The only exception about not discussing their philosophies is to the extent that such philosophies deal with long hair.
3. Be kind. Don't say anything you would not say to someone's face. If you have constructive criticism to voice, use tact. If you have criticism to voice that is not constructive - that will not help an individual with HIS HAIR - then keep it to yourself.
4. If an individual's behavior is such that you cannot keep quiet, then contact the webmaster. There's a link called "complaints" right at the top of the main page. It spells out the ONLY way we will accept complaints.
Thank you, everyone, for your cooperation.