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To start, I'm a long haired man. Everyone who wants to grow long hair needs to think about a couple of factors before you make a decision. 1. You need to be a man of self confidence. Any doubts u have about yourself in whatever area of life, age, wieght, profession, hieght, sexuallity need to be addressed. Not all men can carry the wiehght of thier hair. I can tell you honestly, YOU WILL LOOK LIKE AN IDIOT if you can't handle these pressures. Long hair is for the selective few, if you are not at this level CUT IT.
Take a pill there pal.
You know...it's people like you who give longhairs a bad name!
Keep it growin' and keep your comments to yourself!
Brett
"wieght", "hieght" and "sexuallity" have nothing to do with growing hair long.
If someone wants to grow their hair, who is to say they need to have those traits to do it? Anyone can do it, if it makes them happy. If they are unhappy they cut it. It's simple.
I just see people who want to have long hair. This sounds very sexist to me.
I can take everything that you have said and put it differently, and I think most guys who have been here a while would agree. Perhaps you did not mean to come across so negative, but that's the way it comes across. So, speaking of "look at yourself" let's look:
So, if you are a longhaired man, you have learned what you write below from your experience. That is one of the great, though often unexpected, benefits of growing your hair out as a man in this culture. You learn tons about yourself that you might not otherwise and that most often you COULDN'T ahead of time--epsecially just because someone told you to.
When you grow your hair out, you may NOT be a man with self-confidence. If you have little self-confidence, the process of growing your hair out and dealing with family and friends around you will be VERY challenging. You will, in my experience and in watching this board, cut your hair often to please others around you, or, you will develop some self-confidence so that you can tell others to leave your hair alone, in so many words. And, it may be a ping-pong game for a while until that happens. A man who chooses to grow his hair out in this culture is a very good chance of developing some real self-confidence and of finding his own INTEGRITY again.
Most of us had no idea what that meant when we started. We learned very fast, and very much like weight training, the weight that I cannot lift today, I will lift next week because of the weight I lift today. It's called growth, and you don't get to grow unless you live and engage life. A man who grows out his hair from day one begins to engage life and live in a way that perhaps he has not before. Growing his hair out can become a metaphor for all of the rest of his engagements and living.
This is not very honest. Perhaps you have had a bad experience. That only honest thing to do is for you to learn from it, but laying it at the feet of all other men, young or not so young, simply is dishonest. If you cannot handle these pressures you will not look like an idiot. YOu will look like a man growing into his own. The fear of what you may look like is what keeps most human beings cowered and hunkered down in some corner of their lives dying daily. THe man who chooses to grow out his hair has left the dark corner and is saying, with his hair, I refuse to be afraid anymore.
I simply don't know a longhaired man who would say this. So, I doubt whether you really are a longhaired man. However, I don't know you, nor do I know all longhaired men. One thing you will find as you read this board that this is not a community of men who think of themeselves in exclusive terms. We invite all men who have interest in longhair to be here, share their stories, offer encouragment, and seek encouragment here. As each has his own experiences, we share with each other as guideposts for one another. I am all over the web with different interests, but this is one of the most wholesome, human places I've ever found.
So, re-read what you've written, if it was sincere, and reconsider how you might share some of your experiences with us, and leave the final judgments about all men and their hair--well, to them!
Robert
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Bill
work those out no matter what length of hair you've got
so many people accept their flaws as "natural" and never bother improving...
hurray for flaws and trying to improve instead of going for stagnation and easyness!
oh, and cut your hair if you want it short, there is no other reason that should make you do that...
-vincent
Not to mention spelling.
...and I suppose you need to wear a suit and have a ponytail to drive a pretencious car?
...or maybe you can't grow your hair if it's thinning?
...or what about "only children climb trees. what on earth do you think you're doing up there?"
You seem to have a very negative and opinionated point of view.
I say if you want to do something, do it. Growing your hair isn't going to hurt you, or anyone else. Who's to say who can do it and who can't?
Your should go and climb a tree, chase a pigeon and buy some bubbles and blow them in town where everyone will see you.
Let your hair down, have some fun and remember there enough rules in life without the imposition of more.
wolfeyes
